How To Provide Emotional Support To Your Children
Going through a divorce is tough, even harder when there are children involved. Your main concern during the course of your divorce is the emotional health and wellbeing of your children. Here are some ways that can help you in emotionally supporting your child during your divorce:
Do Not Speak Negatively About Their Other Parent
If you have something negative to say, write it down. You may need to have a conversation with your ex-spouse but even that does not need to have negative connotations as that will ultimately affect the children. If you have a good friend with a good ear, you can probably share some of your negative speak with them, that’s what friends are for, the children do not need to hear it. Keep in mind that you are still a co-parent and speaking poorly about your ex to your children can be considered parental alienation.
Create New Routines With Your Children
Any form of instability will affect your children in a vast number of ways. A child that is unsure about where their place is in the world or what the future holds may be impacted more negatively emotionally than a child who is assured that there is a plan, is made part of the plan and understands what to expect as much as they are able to. Let them know and show them that each parent’s love for them will never change and that they will now have two great places to live and more adventure. Whatever words you choose to use, use them carefully and in a nurturing manner so that they remain unafraid to bond with either parent.
Be Open for Your Children
Your children are not full-grown adults. They are not capable of understanding what you and your ex, as adults, understand how the world works just yet. That does not mean that you can leave them in the dark. You must be as open as possible with your child about the divorce situation so that they are not blindsided and know what to expect going forward.
Consult a Tampa Divorce Attorney
Knowing how to handle your children’s emotions during a divorce does not come with instructions, suggestions are always meant to be well-received however, at the end of the day, you know your child.
The basic idea is to make sure that they understand, on some level, that things have changed for the better, that everything is and will be okay, and that they can count on you and your ex. However you choose to implement your plan, you must maintain your child’s best interest and emotional health and wellbeing at the forefront of that plan.
Get Help Today
If you are in need of assistance with a parenting plan, child support, child custody or child visitation, speak to Buchholz Family Law today for compassionate, confidential legal advice.